I had the opportunity to chat with Richard Ostler on his Listen Learn & Love podcast. We focused on the gospel/mission of Jesus Christ and how it can help inform topics including doubt and ministering to LGBTQ people.
Standing on my friend's front porch I didn't have the answer, but I was capable of a listening ear, a long hug, and offering my prayers.
We have to see others not as the source of our pain, but as flawed human beings also in pain and need of help from divinity. To do this we have to let go of our hurt. We need to freely forgive.